Dont want to be happy?

People who experience anxiety are happy to have less but rarely want full recovery. I often run pain clinics in front of a group of people. There is a special thing when working in a group in which people who want to fit in usually get the benefits of just accepting that they too have no pain. The minute one person says it went down, then the ripple effect passes from one to the other until the entire lot are feeling pretty good.

Over the years I also observed a different thing that happens. If we ask them to give the pain from 1 to 10 with ten being unbearable and 1 almost not there, there are a handful of people who are happy bringing the feeling down to 4 or 5 and then stopping there. They will say things like its okay. I can live with it. Don't bother...... It occurs to me that some people don't know what it would be like to be pain free. They do not know what it is like to be happy or to feel good. For some people they get benefits from having pain. For example if the insurance found out that they can now walk up the stairs, carry things and look after the yard work, the insurance payments would stop. If the ones they lived with knew that they could now do things for themselves they may just stop doing those things for the person.

Recently I was reviewing my business model. I want people to come in for several sessions. The reason is that with the hypnosis I do, I can clean up the foundational level fairly quickly. Just like building a house on a solid foundation means that the home will withstand the storms as they come by. Once the foundation is solid, anything a person does afterwards will be easily accepted and the anxiety will stay low. Here is the biggest challenge for me. Once the anxiety is controlled, a person generally has forgotten what it is like to be happy and cheerful. That habit of being elusive, isolated and lonely is really strongly imprinted into a persons identity. New ideas can be introduced to form new habits, but in order for a habit to be fully integrated, the behavior has to be repeated a number of times until it is fully accepted.

Here is what I do daily and recommend.

First write down what you want every day. State it in a positive. Repeat throughout the day as you would a mantra or a song.

Find 10 things to appreciate. Write them down.

Do a round of tapping. I do mine in the shower while getting ready for the day

Mindful breathing is easy and can be done while sitting, waiting or in bed

Decide that your happiness is important and seriously look at people, places and things that rob of you of that.

Over time these things will fill your heart and soul with a renewed sense of joy and you will be happier and less consumed with things that are out of control. Give it a try